Counselling your teenager
Every parent with a teenager knows how difficult it can be to get across to them. It always seems as they grow older they want to shut you out. It is almost as though they begin to feel is if they know it all, like they do not need you anymore. It can be a very stressful period, especially when you can hardly sit them down to have a conversation. It has become much worse with all the gadgets that they have at their disposal, how do you even get them to look up from those screens and talk to you? This article will suggest some practical ways to reach out to your teenagers and counsel them in the right direction.
Most parents fail in the area of a relationship. If you do not build a solid relationship with your child, it is naïve to think that they will listen to you when you speak. Correction without a relationship will only lead to a rebellion. No one enjoys being told how wrong they are. Make sure that this is not the approach that you are taking. To build a relationship, it would be ideal to begin pre-teen. Once they are teenagers they have all these friends that they would rather hang out with than you. That is not the time you would want to start playing tug of war for their attention. Invest in your child. Not just financially, but most importantly with your time.
Let them understand you’re on the same team
You often hear teenagers complain about how “no one understand them”. As a parent, you need to make sure that you do not fall into that category of everyone. If anything, your child should know that you are on their team regardless of what happens. That way they trust you more, and are more likely to open up to you.
Another issue that parents fall short is the area of always wanting to be the ones to receive. Open up about your own childhood. It does not always have to be about the serious stuff. Open up about the small mistakes that you made, and the consequences that you faced. Once you set up a point where they can view you as a human being who also makes mistakes and can understand their own mistakes, they can begin to open up to you.